Ahh chick lit, how I hate thee. Well, that is not true. I didn't hate this book. Clare Naylor's Doghandling seemed a fitting follow up to Why Men Love Bitches, as both books seem to agree that men need to be trained. This theory is not a farfetched one, as I have at least one friend who has admitted to me that she indeed had to train her boyfriend to behave the way she wanted him to. But is this really doghandling? What about people handling? Every new relationship features two people with two sets of behavioral patterns. Each person will treat the other person a certain way as long as the other person lets them. Similarly, dogs will behave a certain way as long as they can get away with it. The secret to training a dog? Be firm when setting boundaries and letting them know what behavior is okay and what behavior is not okay. Through a system of checks and balances (treats, kenneling, etc) you guide the dog to the correct behavioral pattern.
Is this how we girls should deal with guys? Do we really need to employ the same techniques used to train dogs to train our boyfriends? Perhaps. A guy will treat you how you let him treat you. When you aren't being treated how you deserve to be, you definitely have to lay down the law and demand to be treated better. This usually starts with a conversation where you address the wrongdoings. But what about when nothing changes? When talking doesn't work, your actions speak louder than your words and you just might have to treat Brian like Rover.
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